Dear Gay Closest Friend
We have a issue we just can’t figure out. I will be from the little nation town and have now for ages been the sort that likes town dudes. I love every thing they dress, and the way they carry themselves about them– their swag, the way.
One i was in the Dollar General Store and met this guy, “Carl, ” from Washington, DC day. Carl said he had been in town because he’d been taking care of a building for 2 years. We exchanged figures and two months later Carl calls, and ended up being telling me personally about himself. He said he’s a large Kanye West fan, really into fashion, and a huge soccer fan.
Carl asked I said yeah if we could chill one night and. We started talking and he told me that everyone he comes across thinks he’s gay when I got to his house. My eyes got actually big. We asked, “Why do they believe you’re homosexual? ” He said, “It’s because I’m well-groomed. I manage my human body. I love 
to dress good and I like clean things. ” We stated, “Ok. ” Then he asked, “Is that gonna be issue? ” We stated, “No. ”
That night that is same told me he hadn’t had intercourse since October also it ended up being June. We’d intercourse and it is hit by him through the straight straight back. I recall hearing that “Down Low” dudes like striking it through the as well as nothing else. About 30 days or two later on he met my relative and also as quickly as she laid eyes on him she stated he’s gay, without also speaking with him first. When he left my relative asked, “Is he homosexual? ” I stated, “No. ”
I enjoy him and he’s excellent. So keep in touch with me personally is he homosexual? –“Small Town Confusion”
Dear “Small Town Confusion, ”
Simply because you’re in a little town you’re maybe maybe not alienated through the globe. Clues are clues, honey. But i know the “Big City” man whom dazzled you together with his looks that are good high-fashions, and sweet nothings made you poor when you look at the knees. Girl, we’ve all been there.
Now, on the basis of the information you supplied only 1 thing sticks out which makes me go, hmmm, could he be gay? It’s that everyone else he results in thinks he’s. I result from the old college where we now have a saying, “Everyone knows, however you. ” Meaning, we have all peeped your card regarding your sex, however you have been in denial.
Nonetheless, we re-read your story and I also considered to myself, wait a moment, i am aware numerous heterosexual guys like your friend. They like Kayne Western. They gown nice, are well-groomed, and manage their health. Also, they are soccer fans. And, on numerous occasions individuals have assumed these were homosexual. Awww, the key term, “assume. ”
The truth is, Ms. Small-Town-Confusion, we place guys like your buddy within the group of, He’s Not Gay, But he’s got Gay Tendencies. The reason by that is their mannerisms and actions would make one immediately assume, based entirely on observation, these are typically homosexual. Yet, with them, you discover they are not gay, they are just slightly effeminate as you get to know these men, have conversation, and hang out. And, maybe it’s in line with the fact they consult with a lisp, make use of their arms once they talk, carry man-bags, and like being well-groomed. Those try not to make a guy homosexual.
Even taste Kayne West doesn’t equal gay. He makes music that is good. But, then uhm, girl, he is gay if your man is singing in a falsetto voice, songs by, Whitney Houston and Beyonce, and he knows the routine to “Single Ladies.
But, i actually do like he had been upfront to you as he said people think he’s homosexual, and asked in the event that you had an issue along with it. Many males would run and give a wide berth to the subject, rather than share just what other people think about their sexuality. If you ask me it shows he could be more comfortable with whom he could be. And, with himself he wants to know if you are if he is comfortable. And, you him told you had been.